Maintaining the Discipline to Grow

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Formal education tricks us into thinking that knowledge can be solidified in three years, with no further maintenance. If we take this approach to any practices that improve our wellbeing – meditation, mindfulness, affirmations etc we can’t be further away from the truth. Often times, as soon as we stop exercising or meditating for instance, our body and mind is changing its composition. The lack of commitment and self-esteem take center stage and we allow all the hard work to go to waste. We are embarked on an ongoing journey towards growth and not seeking to meet our full potential is choosing to just partially live. Buckle up, take responsibility and commit to building purpose.

Taking Responsibility

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That time you walked into a door, you said the wrong thing, you’ve been absent and worried instead of present and aware. All that is your responsibility. Things can happen, but the way they happen to you is different from how they happen to anyone else. And all this is how your process and perceive what is happening around you and how you choose to respond. Taking responsibility is the first step into the right direction.

Getting Out of Though Situations

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Thinking that we are stuck is one of the greatest illusions in life. With every step we take or decision to remain passive, time keeps on moving forward. We can choose if we move or stand still, but standing still will doesn’t change anything and it certainly won’t stop the time. Feeling stuck comes from a place of fear. It takes courage to change our circumstances, to stop blaming anyone or anything for what is happening to us and to take full responsibility instead.

Empowering language shifts the focus from the issue to an actionable solution. And if we are able to look forward, we then can take one more step to get ourselves out of any situation. What’s the next step to get you closer to where we want to be in life?

Taking Responsibility for Our Life

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Taking responsibility and ‘taking the blame’ are two different things. Responsibility requires action, a response to circumstances that facilitates growth. Blame is passive. As much as certain people think that they benefit from it by maintaining their public image, blame doesn’t serve anyone. Blame hinders the self-esteem, while responsibility builds integrity and a feeling of self-worth.

How does this apply to how we approach life? Responsibility plays a great role in our perception over the world and we need to discipline our mind to be able to use its power. It really means that victimisation is not an option and that dreadful feeling of failure gets spun into success by avoiding blame and focusing on the solution.

This is a superpower that can turn our life from a passive experience into a dynamic search of solutions. The great thing about it is that taking responsibility is a choice that you and I can make to help ourselves stay focused and in control of our life.

Entitlement as a Self-Sabotage Technique

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Expecting things to come our way without putting in the work is entitlement. Although it can work in our favor for a little while or as long as we don’t leave our nest, this attitude gives us the impression of growth. It makes us fantasize in thinking that we are of superior race.

Entitlement goes hand in hand with hard work and with discipline. Doing what’s easy doesn’t require discipline, pushing ourselves to evolve does. How do we fix ourselves?

  1. Learn humbleness, not humility. Be humble and modest, bow in front of people who have endurance, who went through hardship, who are different. Learn empathy. Learn that your soul’s journey is in tandem with millions of other energies. Be humble.
  2. Set your goal high and work towards it. Don’t settle for whatever comes your way or what you can get at a snap. To play a big part you have to match the requirements. Train for it, study, learn, evolve.

What do you think the third ‘fixing ourselves’ tip should be?