Emotions that Serve You

Photo by Arnel Hasanovic

Our thoughts create certain emotional states. You might think – it’s what happens that makes me feel happy or sad – but what happens is being taken on board by us and we usually have a reaction to it. This doesn’t mean that the reaction cannot be negative, but taking control and allowing ourselves to feel feelings that serve us well is important. Do you get any long-term benefits from lashing out, feeling anxious or sad? Do you get any benefits at all? Although we do have a wide range of emotions to play with, we don’t really have to explore the whole palette. Keep you emotions in check, choose what you feel.

Where Should We Be on the Path to Success?

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Time can easily go unaccounted for, but we all have dreams. The most important question when pursuing our dreams is looking at where we are versus what we should be doing. Time unaccounted for is time that hasn’t been maximised to grow the skills we need that will help us in the long run.

Thinking small will keep us small. If we can uncover the big dreams and expectations we had from life and from ourselves from a very early stage, we can use discipline to get there. We need a purpose in life, may it be a housework project, career or personal development, we need to know where we want to reach. The road will always be unknown, but ensuring that we are on the right track will bring familiarity into our journey. Success feels familiar when we’ve projected it in advance.

Perfection Isn’t Real, Consistent Effort Is

Photo by Milan De Clercq

There are times when we are fearful to even start a process. This can be because we are setting unrealistic expectations. We mistake perfection with a perfectly newborn baby, forgetting the effort and care that the mother has put in not just during the nine months of pregnancy, but in the time before also.

Doing constant exercise, changing our eating and sleeping habits, introducing reading, journaling, meditation, affirmations and gratitude in our routine will change our life in tiny chunks, so much so that over a 12 months period we will be able to recognise massive improvement.

We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.

– Jim Rohn

It’s okay to strive for perfection as long as we understand that it is our effort that will get us as close to the highest expression of ourselves as possible.

How Much Can We Handle?

Photo by Miguel Salgado

Self-doubt doesn’t show out of nowhere. Whenever we are given conditions or advice which imply that we are not good enough, strong enough or smart enough to handle situations is when the door is opened for doubt to settle:

  • ‘you can only go there if this person goes’
  • ‘liaise with a senior member of the team to work on this’
  • ‘are you sure you can manage so many projects?’

By being guarded by some sort of authority – parents, grownups, employers, professors – we give into a smaller version of ourselves. We were built for growth. I would even go as far as to say that we were built for glory. We don’t have to go to battle to have glory, what we need is constant growth that will empower us to create a greater impact in our lives, our communities and our society.

Many of us have settled into limiting mindsets before even realizing what we are doing to ourselves. But all this can be undone. Know that we can handle more than we were made to believe and that no one can take away our greatness. It’s up to us to acknowledge the damage that was done and resurrect our sense of self-confidence, self-love and our commitment to grow.


Balancing Hard Work with Self Care

Photo by Ben White

We all know that while we’re asleep someone in a home garage is working 10x faster to progress on the same idea as you. We also know that an idea is worth nothing. How do we balance the sense of urgency with looking after ourselves?

My experience so far was at the two ends of the spectrum – either being fully committed to my personal projects or acting as if I’m 10 during my summer holiday – which means not getting anything done. I was taught recently about the impact of small victories. We need to remind ourselves that it’s not just alright to get tiny bits done, but that these are small successes worth celebrating. Celebrating the process rather than that one moment when we put a product on the market or we launch our idea is providing fuel to work continuously and to grow continuously. So it’s fine fine to sleep, as long as you remember where you left things first thing in the morning.