All we can see are actions and their results. But the thought process can reveal that actions that don’t look impressive in the real world, are often times the better option. We not only have different ways of seeing the world, but due to our values and priorities some decisions can seem unfair to the naked eye. What do you do in those situation? Ultimately it comes down to: would you rather sleep well at night knowing that you followed through with the best option or do what other people expect you to do? Which of the options would contribute to your sense of self-worth and which one would make you feel a puppet?
Our identity morphs throughout our existence. At first, we change with every interaction and later we start to find a sense of self and align ourselves instinctively with people who share our values. By the time that sense of self kicks in, we might have consumed quite a few unfiltered beliefs. The challenge is building the sense of self while building a better you.
If you are like me and you had an interest at any point in life and you were swayed away from it without even realizing it, you’ll understand the power that other people’s believes hold on us. The paradox is that growing takes selective learning based on self-founded values. But to build these values, we need to explore and learn. Both processes happen in parallel. By being aware of this happening as much as we can, we can make a conscious decision on what the renewed foundation, the renewed self will be and how to build on it.
Setting up goals allows us to measure progress and gives us a direction. But taking I want to over I need to won’t cut it. Our desire needs to be strong enough to make us get out of bed every morning, with a smile on our face, knowing that we’re going to make progress. Even in the cold, foggy mornings. Even when we can come up with every excuse to not make progress.
Stop. Is checking social media really that important? Online shopping, playing video games, watching Netflix. There are an infinite amount of distractions and excuses, but only you can create your own environment to succeed. Only you can pause, take a step back, and understand that what’s immediately in front of you does not serve you. Clear your field of vision. See where you’re going and make sure you get there. If you don’t do it, no one else will.
We often think of mental health issues as being the result of great challenges in life, but that’s not always the case. We live in a time where Western societies thrive and all the basics needs of people in developed countries are catered for.
Many of us don’t seem to have figured out what’s next after the layer of basic comfort is being covered. Throw the distractions of the online environment in the mix – news, social media, forums – and we fail to address what we can do in the present moment to look after our wellbeing.
Passive Behaviour Leads to Depression
Intentions are great when weaponized through actions. In other words, keeping ideas in your head and not going through with them is detrimental to your mental health.
Exercise stimulates the release of happy chemicals in your brain – endorphins and dopamine to name a few. So all that time you spend using social media and thinking of what you should do, how you should behave brings zero value in your life unless you actually do it.
Use social media as a trigger for what you want to achieve. You can have a glance at people who are doing well in an area of life you want to thrive in and take one good, actionable idea from them. One tiny change – 7 minutes abs, 2 minutes stretch every morning, one jog around the block – can give you a glimpse of happiness that you’ll then find the determination to maintain it. You are stronger than you think you are.