The ‘Prestigious’ Jobs

Photo by Samuel Ferrara

The hierarchy of what jobs are worth pursuing is based on biases carried over generations after generations. Although farmers and craftspeople are extremely vital to our society, the projections of a happy life within four corporate walls and the power associated with wearing formal clothes often place crafts and outdoors jobs into an inferior category.

The story of ‘my parents are farmers and I outgrew them by working in a modern building as a …’ is not as glamorous as it sounds. Outgrowing our parents can mean carrying on the family business if that’s what makes us happy and ensuring growth by making our work more impactful. At the end of the day, prestigious jobs with promotions and stale air without an option of opening the windows are just that – jobs. Crafts are more important than we care to admit and skill growing is not limited to formal education.

Choose Kindness

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You know that time when you dismissed someone because of a lack of time or patience? It takes the same amount of time to be kind to someone as it does to be rude. Not to mention the roller-coaster of emotions and thoughts that follow each action.

Kindness brings peace while rudeness deepens the void within. There is a black whole were negative emotions live and the more we feed it the bigger it gets. Do we want to give and receive kindness or dwell in self-induced emotions.

Every action has a consequence even if we don’t see it immediately. Even if we think that the employee or child that we chose to treat poorly has no power over us, the higher balance does not know status or superiority mindsets. We are all equal in essence and the diversity of our abilities facilitates progress. Why would we waste any time on being anything but kind?

Hey Auncle, You Might Be Right, Except that You’re Not.

Can all know-it-all stand up? I plead guilty of it.

As a childless auncle with a growth mindset is challenging to be a mere observer to different behaviours, particularly the one of the loved ones. We only have control over our own being so it might be about time to tell you and remind myself to back off.

With so many ideals projected on the lives of generations to come, we fail to see our place in the grand scheme of things. Our role is not that of judge and jury, but to live the best life we can with all the tools, knowledge and skills that we are determined to acquire.

The level of determination varies from person to person and so is the perception of the world. So no, we can’t go around correcting people in matters of life. Not unless they want your input. The irony of free advice is that it can costs relationships.

Why We Like to Preach People

Although preaching can come from a sunny corner of our beings, it implies inequality between two people. And we all know that feeling less of something is not a reasonable price to pay for learning.

People around us have been exposed to different experiences, different media and have been passed on a different set of beliefs, all this on top of their unique self. It is challenging to share a point of view out of context (when the context is all within you) in a way that encapsulates the journey to that understanding, not just the final outcome.

The cliche ‘Everyone needs to make their own mistakes’ reflects how we learn. Learning is an intimate process and conversation can breezly steer the person away from going head on into the cliffs. But we can’t take responsibility for another person’s evolution and set of beliefs, however we preach.

Preaching claims a superior form of moral compass and it comes with responsibility. Whilst role-models are picked based on traits that someone finds inspiring, preachers as self-proclaimed role-models trust that they have similar traits.

If we have preaching abilities, these can be interpreted as the potential to become a role-model or a coach. In both cases the emphasis is moved from the person preaching to the audience.

We like preaching people because:

  1. It makes us feel superior
  2. It makes us feel like we matter
  3. It builds a false rapport

Do you think that people like being preached? Can you think of a few reasons why?