Tag: support

What You’re Telling Yourself Will Always Hit Home

Photo by Brett Jordan

Are you looking around you for a strong support? Inspiration. Motivation. Discipline. A plan? Regardless of who you’re meeting and what you are told, you are the one filtering the information. When we choose to think that someone gives us positive feedback because they’re being nice, we neutralize a powerful source that can fuel our self-confidence and help us sky-rocket through doubts, all the way into action.

There is zero value in putting ourselves down, and yet it happens. Our primitive mind wishes to keep us safe when it perceives danger that is not real – public speaking, starting a conversation, asking someone out etc. Tuning into the messages of growth over the messages that are belittling is a personal choice. As someone once said, growth begins at the edge of our comfort zone. We have the power to surpass our limits and that begins with what we think and how we convey it.

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Am I Worthy?

Photo by Joe Pregadio

For generations we were made to feel less of a person for wanting more. Aspirations that our inner circle couldn’t achieve were buried alive. Overgrowing those around us led to negative projections from the community and the verdict was most of the times the same: they’ve achieved this much because of unethical work or privileged upbringing.

With all this luggage to carry we unconsciously limit ourselves and put a cap on our dreams. If despite all odds we’re on our way to success, all that negativity might lead to us questioning not only our ability, but our merit and eligibility in achieving success.

Things to remember:

  1. Success is a reflection of work, failure, learning and growth
  2. We are all worthy of success. Saying the opposite is like saying ‘We don’t deserve to work, fail, learn and grow’
  3. Being worthy might not be a characteristic that everyone agrees with, but success cannot be contested.

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Congrats, You’re an Auncle! What changed?

Parenthood is a fascinating topic. Without children of my own, I filter any information, studies or comments on parenthood through my experience as a child and more recently through the experience of being an auntie.

The Unknowns of Parenthood. Auncle Edition.

Parents can have a difficult time adjusting to the new beings they’ve brought into the world. Auncles (aunties and uncles) don’t have the luxury of displaying difficulty. They’re not sleep deprived, worried and anxious all the time because of this being that they’re responsible for on the clock. And yet relationships, family dynamics and expectations change.

So what are the challenges:

  • getting comfortable (from holding the baby, feeding and changing nappies to family dynamics and difficult conversations)
  • knowing what is asked of you as an ‘occasional support partner’ or entertainment factory
  • understanding how much of being you is the right dose before being told off by the parents
  • growing a relationship with the niblings (niece or nephew) that stands on its own
  • nurturing the existing relationship with the parents
  • taking a step back when things are not within your control
  • decide how much of ‘that’ life is ‘your’ life

Are you aware of different elements that form your journey as an auncle? If so, did I miss any?

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