You only have control over your own actions, so why waste time and energy over things that can only impact them of you allow them to? Radically accept everyone around you. Accept their decisions, their stories, their views. Accepting is more helpful than fighting forces and attracting consequences. Acceptance allows you to go through life by focusing on what you can do better, and it all starts with accepting who you are now.
We often think that there’s only that much that we can do. Only that many practice rounds, that much work, that much time and effort. Until someone comes and surpasses our expectations. It takes one person to break a world record and others will follow. It’s the knowing that makes it possible. Out of all the things you think you know, which one would you like to shift? And what’s holding you back?
Time off in lieu is a concept that can trick us into thinking that when we invest our time into something, we can then back time. This might be doable as part of the workweek convention, but let us not be fooled that time can be claimed back. Time is the only universal currency that we trade at any given time and it’s the one area in which we are all equal.
We created a category of time unaccounted for called leisure time or free time. ‘Free’ time is as valuable as we make it. If we use it to up the quality of our lives by bringing value and growing, every minute of our life can add to a positive balance. When we give our time to consuming the hyperrealities portrayed by Netflix, television, social media, celebrity personas and so on, we trade our time and even then, it’s not free. We pay money to spend time and the effect that these activities have on us and our evolution is negative. Good night sleep versus going out drinking? One good deal over a bad deal.
All time is accounted for in the grand scheme of things, even though we might not always keep track of it. So whenever we look at people making more money than us or pursuing their dreams, we must remember that they are simply making a better time trade. They choose to create, rather than consume. And once you add value, you not only get rewarded financially, but the impact on your on growth will be positive.
If you’re passed that stage in your life when grownups look at you with empathy and tell you You can do whatever you set your mind to, you might feel like you need reassurance for every idea, big or small. But as we grow up and the reality of social norms and the expectations of fitting into the 9-5 pattern kick in, people who are emotionally invested might not be best fit to run by ideas.
You might be thinking – hang on a second, my mom, grandpa or loyal puppy have my best interest at heart. And although that might be the case, new avenues are always scary. Not just for ourselves, but for the people we care about (you can read more about limiting mindsets in the piece on How Much Can You Handle?). Being supportive of new ideas takes an openness that someone else’s judgement might also work. It also takes accepting that even if no one in the family or in the whole world dared to aim so high, that doesn’t mean that it cannot be done.
In the idea phase of a project, when our self-confidence is so fragile, why give an opportunity to nay sayers to deray us? What do we have to lose, ultimately? If it is time you are worried about, it will be time invested in learning. Money? Don’t invest what you can’t afford losing. Failure? You fail if you don’t learn anything from the experience and as a wise mind once said, if you don’t try, you fail by default.
We are sometimes faced with decisions that can impact not only our wellbeing, but the wellbeing of the people around us. We might be making just as many decisions as before, but now we are dragged into the now and forced to project over the infinite of possibilities.
Responsible decision making is one side of the story, whilst worry is the hidden part that doesn’t serve anyone. For days now I am forcing myself to cultivate positive practices of visualization and affirmations. We generate thoughts that feed into a greater narrative, we might as well make them representative of our wants, rather than our fears.
An ethical decision might be not to give into fear. Looking after a loved one. Inspiring people to find humanity in chaos. We have great power within that transcends from the immaterial world into the physical world. Lets make the immaterial a copy of the reality that we envision and increase our chances for our physical world to transform into what we imagined.
As much as we like to find excuses in how busy we are or how challenging our life is, personally I still sometimes find myself stuck in the loop of nonproductive behavior.
Keeping track of every move we make is tiring on its own, but people who have made considerable progress in their area of interest have done so by measuring progress. We celebrate birthdays and a new year not just for the opportunity to party, but because we can look back at how far we came.
Tracking progress weekly does add meaning to the one year milestones we’ve set. It helps us stay on track and if binge-watching Netflix for a week is a poor use of time, imagine what it means doing so for a full year. Time to get our house in order. What is the one thing you want to focus on? By setting a priority discipline will naturally follow.