self-Doubt and Doubting Intentions

Photo by Katrina

We oftentimes believe that we’re doing a great job in wrapping ourselves in a shiny display of perfection until we break down at the smallest comment. More than a misplaced statements, what these reactions reveal are our biggest fears, doubts and challenges.

After soothing the wound it’s important to understand the cause. Why do we hold ourselves to standards that we are capable of achieving, without acknowledging the processes behind? For it’s clearly the fear of failure. As much as I write and talk about failure being part of success, it takes careful inner work to actually embrace it.

Adopt a practice that reminds you that you are worthy of success and capable of achieving great things. Surround yourself by people who can see you being your vulnerable self and carry on believing that you can achieving everything you set your mind to. Once the emotions are tucked in for serene sleep, analyse the situation: where do you want to go and what will take you there? Who can help you along the way and where do you have to do cut downs?

The more time you invest in planning, the less time will fear and self-doubt have to manifest itself.

Seeing Good in People

Photo by Daria Tumanova

Our mindset dictates the perspective of our reality. Being brought up with a distrusting attitude towards people hinges our relationship with ourselves and with others.

Part of the relationship with the self is seeing our reflection in other people’s eyes. Distrust attracts distrust and people cannot connect at a higher level without putting themselves at risk emotionally. Being socially isolated leaves us with the idea of self that our mind makes believe. If our perception of the self cannot be informed by kindness, love and caring from others we become shadows of who we could potentially be.

Seeing good in people allows us to see good in ourselves and for that building trust is a necessary condition. Rather than teaching our younger members of the community about distrust, we can teach them coping strategies when misplacing trust. We can also teach them empathy and forgiveness that liberate our spirit from emotions that are making us guarded and are holding us back. We can teach ourselves to feel big and trust plenty and to experience ourselves and others in as many shades as we possibly can.