Only through setting an aim can we achieve it. Otherwise, regardless if we are doing many tasks, if they don’t amount to something that we are proud of, we will spend our entire life chasing things outside us to make us happy. If you know that tomorrow you will be in a different place from where you were today, both in time and space, in the universe, would you choose where you want to be?
We all have experienced at least one moment in life when our decision was overridden and there was nothing we could do about it. If this happened at a young age, we learnt to put up less resistance going forward up to a point when even being proper adults doesn’t change our approach towards how we treat life, decisions and things coming our way. We sometimes forget that other people made decisions that weren’t in our best interest. It was comfortable for them not to have to deal with the prospects of success or failure. Not having to bother. But nothing happens unless we take responsibility and do what’s right for us.
Is growth all about taking action? It involves planning – sure. But we often tick boxes without giving ourselves time to take it in. Without looking back at what we did, even if it went well, and consciously analyzing our actions. That is a great point when criticism is useful. So today, if you have 5 minutes – give yourself time to reflect. You might experience more growth in moments than you did for a while.
Confidence isn’t confrontation or stepping on someone else to feel high. It’s walking with grace knowing that whatever happens you’ve got this. It’s the inner battle, the wishes and the doubts, the effort and the failures that lead to success. They all build confidence when we make sure that we don’t hurt others in the process of getting big. At that point, the illusion of confidence is just that, an illusion.
If anything doesn’t go according to plan, what do you do? Do you complain and moan? Do you throw guilt around? Or do you regroup, reassess and replan? It may be easier to give up, but it’s harder to live your whole life without knowing that you’ve given your best. Every. Single. Time.
Listening is an active act of engaging with someone, of connecting with them. More than speaking, it can bond people in a profound way. Two people speaking will meet, speak and part ways without having shared anything with each other. Two people listening form a spiritual connection that the violence of the spoken word can break. We hear people saying ‘You should be listening more’ on an accusatory tone. But it takes words to accuse and silence to understand.