Practice and You’re More Likely to Make It

Photo by Matteo Fusco

Have you ever dreamed of walking up, getting ready in 30 minutes, entering an audience of 1,000 people and delivering a candid, funny, yet meaningful speech? With some people fearing public speaking more than they fear death, it’s so much more important to consider exercise and preparation ahead of every task, big or small – but more importantly if there’s something that we’ve never done before. The first step is, in this example, to practice not just the speech, but the delivery, the room, reactions, joy and fulfillment beforehand through the power of imagination. Our brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and the product of our imagination, which is why worrying scenarios feel so real. So do yourself a favor and put yourself in positive situations by starting with what’s happening inside your mind.

Life at a Glance: the Positive Future

Photo by Jill Heyer

In times of austerity we cannot postpone change and choosing what’s right. What’s easy is no longer an option and giving into anger and despair is guaranteed failure.

So what can we do when we can’t change the decisions that led us here?

  1. Take a look at your environment. Tidy up the space for a clear mind.
  2. What is your ‘must’ through this challenging period? Financially, socially (the need to connect with people) and personally (self-growth).
  3. Where do you want to go?

Envisioning a bright future when the world seems to be on verge of collapsing might not be the most sensitive thing to do, but it certainly is the healthiest. We attract what we say and what we think and despite all the chaos, there is still room for our individual narrative.

Spinning Guilt from Weakness to Advantage

Photo by Marko Blažević

Guilt can prevent us from making decisions that we’re not confident with 100%. Unlike doubt, if used ahead of making a decision, it can be a great tool to anticipate the internal changes that making a choice would bring.

Rather than waiting for retrospective guilt to kick in, let’s do a visualization exercise of what awaits for us on the other side of making a decision. Is it a life of joy or a life of struggle? Is it financial comfort but emotional torture? Is it financial comfort and emotional wellbeing?

We can work towards achieving everything we want in life. Yes, it’s true that everything comes at a cost, but living a full life takes time and effort. Guilt doesn’t have to be our companion. We can welcome it in and acknowledge the early signs of being off course. Let’s try and understand the signs – are they our parents’ bias, cultural limitations or is it truly us, moving away from who we want to become?

How to Stay on Course and Follow Through with Your Ideas

Beautiful mistakes do happen, but how do we get our focus back after we’ve been off course for a bit?

Here is where journaling comes in handy. I always thought that the idea of a journal is to complain. It wasn’t until recently when I started dipping into self-help literature that I understood how powerful journaling can be if used right. You’ll most likely experience:

  • clarity of your thoughts and processes
  • a sense of accomplishment by measuring yourself against who you were yesterday and the day before
  • gratitude for the abundance in your life
  • a consistent vision of the future

Things can change, but there’s nothing holding us back from holding on to our dreams and aspirations. I have recently reinvented the wheel in terms of my vision for the future. While it’s exciting that I ended up wanting to explore the same route, it’s amazing how I forgot completely that that was the plan all along. You have a strong image of what you want to achieve? Write it down – may it be a journal, a piece of paper or a window, write it down where you can see it.

‘We can do everything we want in life, but we can’t do it all at the same time’

Tim Ferriss

So if you get ambushed and enthusiastic by dozens of ideas running through your mind, take a deep breath and remember: you’ve got time. Take out your idea book and keep on working on what you’re doing now. And when the time comes to move on to the next venture you’ll have plenty of ideas to choose from. Meanwhile, stay creative.

Why Are Vision Boards Better than Family Photos?

Vision boards remind us about where we are going in life so we don’t get lost in opportunities, self-talk, peer pressure or whatever it is that life throws at us. Having a vision board makes daily choices easier. For instance in order to achieve great health and maintain it certain habits don’t align with the vision of life, while others – such as healthy eating, exercise, mindfulness and meditation – do.

What is a vision board?

A vision board reflects your goals and aspirations in all areas of life or specific areas, if you feel like you want to have a certain focus. The goals can be reflected in words or imagery: a photo of a crowd that tells you one day you’ll be there to share your ideas with them, a personality or an object – it can be anything that has meaning for you.

Simply put, a vision board is a tool that reminds you about your long-term goals and it’s a great trigger for visualizing yourself being that what you want. Also, there’s no reason why you can’t have some family photos there if that’s what drives you.

As our brain can’t perceive the different between immediate reality, memories and imagination, visualizing ourselves where we want to be sets the right attitude towards achieving it.

What areas can I cover in my vision board?

You can cover any or all of the following:

  • Finances
  • Career progression
  • Relationships
  • Love life
  • Health
  • Lifestyle
  • Charity

It won’t be Harry Potter magic – you won’t look at a number on the board, look in your pocket and find a check of the amount. But the cause – effect bond is strong and by knowing where you are going, your subconscious mind will help you make choices and explore ideas and opportunities that will take you one step closer to you goal.

And remember, as much as we take we get to offer back to the world. It can be through added value, inventiveness or financial contribution to the society – we do offer it back. Be intentional and add how you want to serve the world to the vision board.